Humor is essential in our life . Laughter, funny words, jokes, humorous anecdotal jokes… help us relax, relieve tension and show our funniest side.
But in addition, humor applied to communication brings people closer and improves their connection , so it is very healthy and beneficial to use it on a day-to-day basis with our children. We explain how to do it!
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The great benefits of humor applied to communication
Among the many benefits of having a good sense of humor , the promotion of learning, the positive impact on self-esteem or the benefits in socialization stand out .
But when we use that sense of humor on a daily basis to relate and communicate with our children , we will also be favoring the following aspects:
1) Helps to relativize problems
Humor can help at a given moment to relativize the problems or complicated situations of life . But it is important to understand that we are not referring to denying the problems that our children tell us , but to help them accept what happened without drama and even laugh at the situation whenever it comes.
2) Soften serious messages
When it comes to maintaining serious communication with our children about a topic that worries us, using a joke at a given moment or playing a prank helps to soften the atmosphere and create a climate of complicity .
This does not mean that by adding a bit of humor we are downplaying the topic, but rather that we are conveying the idea that despite the seriousness of the context or situation, we are a united family and that we seek emotional connection .
3) Boost memory
We remember better what makes us laugh , so humor is an excellent resource when it comes to reviewing with our children those limits that cannot be broken. Certainly much better than lecturing them on what they can and cannot do !
4) Predisposes to listen
We all like to surround ourselves with fun people with a good sense of humor. Their presence makes us feel good, helps us release stress and gives us positivity.
Parents must be those people for our children , because only in this way will we ensure that they enjoy being with us, that they listen to us and that they feel good by our side.
Keys and examples to apply humor to communication with children
Word games are an inexhaustible source of laughter . We can put it into practice with our children from the years, since at that age they already begin to have a more developed language and understand humor.
But puns or funny rhymes are not exclusive to childhood, they are also an excellent resource to get closer to our teenagers and foster moments of connection.
Use scatological humor
Between the ages of three and five, many children go through a phase of scatological humor where poop, fart and pee become the main words in many of their speeches.
Using this type of humor from time to time will help you improve your connection with your little one, in addition to favoring their acceptance of a limit at a given moment.
- For example : if it’s time for the bath and your child doesn’t want to take a shower , instead of giving him the order , try using this type of humor to encourage him, saying something like: “I smell big cow poop around here! Something will have to be done to remedy it!”
Emojis represent a universal language and on many occasions, their use in written language helps to internalize messages, to “remove iron” from a subject or to be closer.
- For example : if your teenager has a cell phone and you use messages to communicate when you are away from home, do not forget to include funny emoticons or smiley faces that encourage closeness.
Another fun idea is to resort to the use of emoji posters to remind children of tasks that they must do. For example, we can put the hands together or thumbs up emoji to remind them to wash their hands after going to the bathroom.
Connect with your hobbies through language
Many children (and adults) show genuine passion for a particular hobby or hobby . For example, your child may be in love with dinosaurs, the Star Wars universe or Harry Potter.
If this is the case, do not hesitate to use your ingenuity at a given moment and turn around a complicated situation using that special hobby of yours.
- For example : If your child is a big fan of the Star Wars movies, they will surely welcome you to give them advice or remind them of a limit if you pretend to talk like Master Yoda does.
Obviously, it is not that you become this character and only communicate with your child in this way, but surely in a moment of tension , talking in this very special way will make you laugh and help connect.
Use sarcasm and irony
As long as your child already understands sarcasm and irony in language, you can use it to communicate an idea at a given moment and thus relieve tension. But we insist on the importance of using these resources with humor and in a positive way , and as long as the child understands it, otherwise it can be very confusing for him.
- For example : if our son tends to isolate himself in his room , we can use humor as a way of approaching to break the ice before starting to speak. To do this, we can try saying something like “Earth calling Mars, can you hear me? Is there a Martian who wants to communicate with this Earthling?”